Modern dating often feels like a paradox—many crave deep connection but shy away when intimacy requires effort. Emotional labour, the work of being present, patient, and vulnerable, is not a weakness but the foundation of genuine love. Yet, when faced with this reality, avoidance takes over. This post explores why some retreat when intimacy deepens, how cognitive dissonance plays a role, and what it means to break free from the cycle of disillusionment

Modern dating feels like a game—more options, fewer connections. Are we swiping for love or trading depth for convenience?